Ask the Experts | Vanessa Bennett | IG Live Q&A

Vanessa Bennett, LMFT, is a licensed depth psychotherapist, author, and facilitator known for her no-nonsense yet compassionate approach to personal growth and healing. She is the coauthor of the successful relationship book It’s Not Me, It’s You (Harper One), and her latest book The Motherhood Myth. A former New Yorker turned Los Angeles-based therapist, Vanessa co-hosts the popular Cheaper Than Therapy podcast and leads transformational retreats and workshops rooted in Jungian and depth-oriented psychology. Through her writing, teaching, and content, Vanessa helps others break generational patterns and reconnect with their truest selves.

Questions answered:

• In relationships, how do we start “owning our 100%” without feeling like we’re taking on all the blame?

• Is it normal to grieve the person I was before motherhood?

• Why do you believe most of us are, in some way, codependent?

• All couples have sexual dynamics, meaning sex is more than just sex. How can couples explore what’s really underneath their sexual dynamics?

• What are the dangers of expecting our partners to heal us?

• You’ve said emotional independence can feel threatening—why is that, and how can we embrace it without creating distance?

• How do you handle the resentment that builds when your partner’s life doesn’t seem to change as much as yours when becoming parents?