How to Be Dateable with Julie Krafchik & Yue Xu
In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin is joined by Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, co-hosts of the Dateable podcast and authors of the new book How to Be Dateable. With humor, honesty, and hard-earned wisdom from their own dating journeys—and those of thousands of others—they explore what it really means to date authentically in today’s world—and why it matters.
They unpack the mindsets that hold people back, the shift from performance to presence, and how clarity, curiosity, and self-awareness can transform your dating life. They also share why rejection isn’t failure—it’s often a powerful redirection.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, disillusioned, or just plain exhausted by modern dating, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered, seen, and ready to date on your own terms—with confidence and clarity. Julie and Yue want daters to take control of their love lives and share real wisdom and tools for how to do this.
Takeaways:
Dating has changed significantly with technology.
Many people feel overwhelmed and burnt out by dating.
Self-discovery is crucial for becoming a dateable person.
Rejection is a natural part of dating and should not be taken personally.
Rejection can be a form of redirection towards better opportunities.
The validation trap can lead to unhealthy dating behaviors.
Dating should be about finding the right person, not just validation.
In-person connections are vital for meaningful relationships.
It's important to approach dating with curiosity and openness.
Authenticity is key to successful dating.
Many people feel burnt out from inauthentic dating experiences.
Dating should not feel like a performance or a play.
It's important to be upfront about your needs and desires.
Recognizing the right partner involves understanding your own needs.
Curiosity in dating can lead to deeper connections.
Personal stories can provide valuable lessons in dating.
Validation in relationships is important, but should not define self-worth.
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Links:
Book (and Dating Archetype Quiz) - http://howtobedateable.com/
Programs - https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs
Website - https://www.dateablepodcast.com/
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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme and recorded and edited by Maia Anstey.