A Letter to Those Who Keep Choosing Love
Dear Friend,
Last week, we asked you, our community, for your participation in a short survey about your relationship lives. As Esther Perel so wisely says, “The quality of our lives are measured by the quality of our relationships.” We could not agree more. Real Love Ready was formed to support our community in building strong, nurturing partnerships. In order to serve, we want to know what people are challenged with, what questions you have about love and how specifically can we help.
Real Love Ready turned 9 months old this April, and while that is truly a “baby” in the measure of human and company age, we have already learned so much from our most treasured mentors; you!
Trust us when we say we know that exploring both the relationship with others, as well as the relationship with ourselves is difficult. We are the first to admit that once you start doing the work, it begins to feel like “the work” might not end. While this realization can feel slightly daunting, it is also monumentally endearing. Exploring one of the most important parts of our lives, aka relationships, calls for absolute vulnerability and honesty, so believe us when we say, we do not take your will to participate in our calls for information lightly. Knowing our community trusts us to use the personal information they share with us to cultivate loving tools for them to use is an absolute honour to our team at Real Love Ready.
The most recent survey we ran on social media asked the following questions;
Are you _________? a) Seeking a relationship b) In a relationship c) Happily self-partnered d) Other
What’s your biggest current challenge in your love life?
If you could ask our relationship experts one question, what would it be?
What topics are you interested in learning more about when it comes to dating and relationships?
When we look at the survey results, it is obvious that despite someone’s “relationship status”, everyone has questions. There was an overwhelming declaration from our community for guidance, knowledge and tools to apply within their own relationships all across the board. It was also clear that absolutely none of us are alone in feeling alone.
If you’re reading the survey results posted below, and you find your brain whispering, “yep” or your head gently nodding in solidarity, then you are with us. As Real Love Ready continues to evolve and adapt as a company, we learn something new about relationships every single day.
Survey Results:
Seeking relationship: 86%
In relationship: 14%
Happily self-partnered:41%
Other: 59%
WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST CURRENT CHALLENGE IN YOUR LOVE LIFE?
It’s new, so learning to trust (that he’s not still flirting with someone else)
Being hung up on my ex of 8 years
Distance and not being able to be together during the pandemic
Communicating what I want and finding new ways to deepen our relationship
Finding a mature man in his 20’s
Letting go of an ex
Finding somebody local
People I like don’t want me
Covid-19
Fear of hurting others because I am unsure of the permanency of what I want/am looking for
Decipher what love is
What love life lol?
Finding someone
Meeting people I am aligned with
Covid-19
Meeting men that interest me (not just talking about quarantine)
How do I know if I am preventing myself from being emotionally available without knowing?
IF YOU COULD ASK OUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERTS ONE QUESTION WHAT WOULD IT BE?
How do I work on not being so codependent since the divorce?
How do you help others with their relationships without comparing them to your own?
How can I communicate what I want without my partner feeling defensive/not enough?
How to deal with a partner with depression? Is it ok to leave?
Why do people leave and never look back or regret their decision?
How do you date without doing online dating?
How can avoidant types build their communication and calm internal anxiety with relationships?
What is love? Is someone I’m comfortable with but not overly crazy about still considered love?
How do I feel less time clock pressure? I am 30 and feel scared that time is running out
How can I work on feeling good enough after being told that I am not?
WHAT TOPICS ARE YOU INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT WHEN IT COMES TO DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS?
Self love
Dealing with distance, gentle communication, how to express your needs respectfully
Communication and sex after marriage (not getting in a rut)
How to balance loving myself and loving my partner
One partner is mentally ill. How can I support them?
Moving on after breakups
Tolerance
What is the proper way to approach someone in person? Say a grocery store?
Dating amongst age-based societal expectations
Knowing and understanding when you should let the other person go
How to weed through the duds faster
Self-awareness, how to romance, how to manage anxiety